Q or Quest? What I Consider the Important Letter in LGBTQIA
As a parent who has raised three healthy, well adjusted adults, I am always interested in stories about other families who don't fit into the social view of 'normal.' There are so many inspiring stories of people living their lives with honesty and openness. I admire them.
Today in the NY Times is a story about artist Trisha Shattuck, as told by her filmmaker daughter Sharon. The piece is called Name Change,
For me, “normal” is something entirely different. Yes, I grew up with a happily married mother and father in a small, conservative Midwestern town. But my father is transgender, and he’s a cross-dresser. He has never tried to hide these facts from anyone.
I think my own children would agree with Sharon that their own upbringing of "normal" would mean something entirely different. I am not transgendered. I have several transgendered friends. My kids grew up around and with an extended LGBTQIA family.
I am not saying it was always easy, especially when my own LGBT child came out. It was a slow reveal-- first family, then friends, and over time to the rest of the world. I respected that as did everyone else. My kids, and I, have been very fortunate. I never take for granted the fact that we have lived a somewhat rose colored existence in the world, but I carefully orchestrated that safety net for them.
I never wanted my children to judge anyone by the color of their skin, their religious affiliation, or their sexual orientation/gender identity. I'm lucky, I have amazingly smart kids.
And finally a gay PTA!
... the gay PTA wants to help schools better understand how to support students who are being bullied because of their sexual orientation. It also hopes to ensure the curriculum includes the historic contributions of gay men and women in an effort to ease the sense of isolation felt by students struggling with their identity, Kilmnick said.